Book Review: Reading People by Anne Bogel

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Reading People: how seeing the world through the lens of personality changes everything by Anne Bogel was published by Baker Books. I chose this book for review and was provided a complimentary paperback in exchange for my honest review.

“‘What am I really like?’ is a scary question” (Bogel, 33).

I’m an introvert? I beg your pardon? According to who? I’m an outgoing rockstar – in my head, behind a good book (never a bad one), and alone time is my soul language. Anne Bogel pegged me from a mile away with her new book, Reading People.

Bogel delivers a personality rich book that condenses all those Buzzfeed personality quizzes into one book with a pretty design on the front cover. It reminds me of the Beauty and the Beast rose contained in the terrarium. I felt a little like I morphed from Beauty to Beast when I read about my personality. Just kidding.

“All this time I thought I was an extrovert with a knack for adventure. I want to jump out of an airplane!” My husband raised one eyebrow in protest of my assessment.

“Your idea of a perfect life is living in the mountains, devoid of civilization, surrounded by books, and journals.” He gets me. Anne Bogel gets me.

Fifty pages into Reading People, I rolled my eyes, exited my vehicle because it was time to go back to work from my lunch hour, and huffed all the way into my office. Who does Modern Mrs. Darcy think she is? Obviously, her expertise was rubbing me the wrong way. I’ve always imagined myself an extrovert. The thing is I’ve always wanted to be an extrovert. What I believed an extrovert was had me totally reading myself wrong.

“…understanding things beneath the surface-why people act the way they act and prefer the things they prefer-helps us at least make sense of what’s going on” (Bogel, 55).

When I take personality tests, I answer how I imagine myself to be not who I truly am. Who needs Buzzfeed telling me what kind of reader or lover I am. Puh-leeze!

But if I want to understand myself in relation to my husband’s personality, my teenager’s personality, and my tween’s personality, it behooves me to learn about personality types (and not the ones flung at us from Facebook). In each chapter, Bogel does a great job of offering further research and real assessments online.

By the end of the book I was hyperaware of the fact that I’m also hypersensitive (HSP). Imagine that. Turns out random acts of kindness send me into an episode of tears not because I’m depressed but because I’m hypersensitive.

I cannot be more grateful for this book. Here’s to understanding my little family better and hoping I can read someone before I judge them.

I recommend this book if you’re looking to embrace who you are and who others are in relation to their personality.

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Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the Baker Books book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 <> : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Cover photo credit: Photo by Lucas Pimenta on Unsplash